I am jealous of my daughter…. There I said it….. I am awful.
I see pictures and hear her tell me of how she is doing “all the things” thriving, making new friends, pushing herself beyond her comfort zone. My heart is so full of pride for her and all that she is/is going to accomplish.
Her thriving also reminds me of the empty space left inside myself that was never filled. The dreams I never saw fulfilled in my own life as a teenager beginning my new season into adulthood. Those same passions are still sitting there waiting and watching for the day they can emerge. They never leave. They never stop speaking to me pulling on my heart saying “Karen, hello, did you forget about us?”
I grew up in a family that could barely make ends meet and never thought about college funds, it just wasn’t an option. I had no one to encourage me to push myself out of my comfort zone and tell me that I could do anything I set my mind to. So, I tried to pay my way through college myself and began studying the field of health and nutrition specifically to get a degree as a Registered Dietitian. (it has always been my passion) I worked full time, took classes and struggled. I just didn’t think I had what it took to push myself through all the hard work.
So I quit.
No one told me to keep going, don’t give up on your dreams, you have what it takes, just slow down and take it one class at a time. No one… not one person….
A letter to my younger self.
You are an amazingly strong, passionate, funny, smart young woman. You truly can do anything you set your mind to because of your tenacity and strong will that pushes you along the way. I know you don’t see yourself this way right now, but you will begin to one day. And I don’t ever want you to wake up with any regrets, ever! Your life is destined for greatness, keep your eyes on the Lord not on what anyone else is doing. Comparison will kill your self confidence and never be a reliable source of your own worth. There may be struggles along the way, but with your faith and me by your side you can do anything! And remember your success is not measured by the living you make but by the life you live. Live your life with your eyes on the present and gaze into the future and let the past stay in the past. Learn from the past but do not let it be your compass for what your future will look like. And lastly Karen, be authentically you because that version is more than enough!
All my love,
Your future self
So how am I going to make my younger self proud.
HERE ARE 3 WAYS TO RE-CLAIM YOUR “MISSED” YEARS
1. Be proud of where you are right now.
~ Sit down and make a list of all the things small and big that you have accomplished in your life so far. It can be getting married, having kids even checking something off your bucket list. Maybe it is as small as reading to your children at night, cooking and cleaning because you take pride in that. Whatever it is write it down. Then take a step back and look at your list and let it guide your perspective of your life in a different direction. Success does not look the same way or mean the same thing to everyone. So don’t let someone put there definition of success on you.
2. Write down your secret goals and passions
~ Next make a list of those things you walked away from or the things that light your soul on fire. Maybe it is a degree or Undergraduate certificate, taking a class to dig deeper into something you love. What about a destination? Europe, Asia, Australia wherever it is just somewhere you might have dreamed of going as a young adult but never pursued. Maybe it’s pursuing more deeper meaningful friendships in your life. There is no dream that is out of your reach without a little passion and tenacity. If the dream is in you then it is for you!
3. Take the next step.
~ The third list is the steps you can take today to make those dreams a reality. For example, let’s say you have always wanted to run a half marathon. Well you are not going to go out and run all those miles tomorrow right? No, of course not, instead you will start with the right shoes and apparel, maybe the music and mapping out your routes. Then you will run it , one-mile-at-a-time. When we have a goal then we need to reverse engineer that goal into small attainable steps. Take the class, buy the Fit Bit, plan the trip, go to the conference and make some new friends out of your normal circle of daily life.
Your future self will thank you.
What is a dream in your heart that you would still love to do?
~ Me: get a degree in health & nutrition